Monday 30 September 2013

Are your genes stopping you from getting a six-pack?


Have you been desperately trying to get that Adonis toned body but to no success ??  It turns out that apparently it may not be possible due to your genes!

Read Patrick Strudwick's report from "The Independent"



One in six of us is genetically disposed to gain little or no benefit from exercise. Still waiting for his six-pack, Patrick Strudwick took a test to find out if he's among them.

The equation is simple: the more exercise you do, the fitter you become. The message has been pumped into us by government campaigns, shouty PE teachers and celebrities on the make. NHS guidelines state we should be doing 150 minutes of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise a week – a one-workout-fits-all regime.

We've watched some of our greatest screen legends flex and pant – Olivia Newton-John, Jane Fonda, Natalie Cassidy – to tempt us into training. All the while we've become fatter, slower and lazier as morbid obesity spills out of our waistbands and into our hospitals.

And for those who have failed to get fitter? Guilt. Shame. Blame. Because the fitness dream is unlike all other human strata: it's meritocratic. You get out what you put in. Anyone could have Madonna's body if they just rolled off the sofa and on to a treadmill. All of this, it transpires – thanks to a new genetic test – is guff: not just simplistic and unfair on those who don't have the resources to exercise, but scientific mumbo-jumbo.

The test, called XRPredict, costs £199 and has been developed by Dr Jamie Timmons, professor of systems biology at Loughborough University, and is processed by his company, XRGenomics. He has isolated the genes responsible for your body's adaptations to aerobic exercise. In other words, how much fitter you become, which can be measured by how efficiently you transport oxygen from outside the body to the muscles within.

"About 10 years ago, we started trying to come up with diagnostics that explained the differences we saw when we trained people," explains Dr Timmons. "We were seeing huge variations in response to the same exercise programme."

By 2010 their findings had been patented. They make grim reading for the terminally unfit, the Department of Health and for personal trainers everywhere.

Approximately one in six of the general population are "high responders" – following the NHS guidelines, for example, will spark a marked increase in fitness levels, of about 25-50 per cent. One in three are "medium responders", who'll enjoy a 15-25 per cent boost in aerobic fitness. Another one in three are "medium-low responders", who'll only see a 5-15 per cent increase. But, shockingly, another one in six are "low responders", who, at the very most, will only see a 5 per cent rise in their fitness levels.

Most of these will see no improvement whatsoever – no matter how much time they spend sweating on a cross-trainer, they will never be fitter. Worse still, about a sixth of the low responders – 3 per cent of the general population – will actually become less fit. In other words, 1.8 million Britons are effectively allergic to exercise. How can this be?

"So far, the only explanation we have for this is that somewhere in their system, between the mouth inhaling air and the oxygen, probably in the periphery of the muscles, they're maladapting to exercise so that it becomes harder for them to get oxygen to the muscles," says Dr Timmons.

"The analogy with allergy is interesting as allergies are partly driven by inflammation and it's possible that that is one of the problems we have with these people."

Unfortunately, a solution has yet to be found. Dr Timmons suggests this maladaption could be due to the wrong form of exercise, or the wrong type of regime, and that another approach could prove beneficial. "We're not sure what to do yet," he says. "The solution could even be combining exercise with an anti-inflammatory drug.

Resistance training – using weights – could also be an option, "though we don't know yet whether this group would also be non-responders to building muscle," Dr Timmons says. "But there are many common features between aerobic and resistance training in terms of what's happening at a molecular level, which suggests to me a correlation. But we can't be sure yet."

Earlier this year, Dr Timmons and his team published an article about the biology of those who don't gain muscle tissue after a 20-week resistance-training programme. It's about 25 per cent of the population.

I decide to take the test – there must surely be an explanation for why each time I stick to a gym habit for several months I enjoy relatively minor gains and so eventually give up. There's a dreary form to fill out about my medical particulars, height and weight, current and former exercise habits, and a saliva sample (obtained by scraping the inside of my cheek with a swab) that I sent off to their lab.

Several weeks later, the results are in: I'm a "medium-low responder". My DNA is NBG. Thus, the chances of me making Rio 2016 are skeletally slim. According to the report, if I performed 20 weeks of training I would only see up to a 15 per cent improvement in fitness levels.

Should I bother?

"It depends on your goals. If vanity rather than aerobic fitness is your motivation [it absolutely is] then we suggest you try out resistance training, which will also reduce your chance of developing type 2 diabetes. Something like 10-15 minutes per day with a kettle bell."

What? That little? Do I not have to make horribly unflattering grimaces for at least an hour five times a week to make a difference?

"There's been a public health myth touted around that we've been evolved to be continually running around, which is based on very little science. If we were perpetually active, we would also be perpetually needing food, so the evolutionary strategy would be too inefficient – running around consuming as much as possible so that we can carry on running around. It makes no sense."

For those, however, who do want to make the most of their genes – as long as they're not low-responders – and reach the zenith of their capacity for aerobic fitness, the guidance is simple. "Train like a middle-distance athlete: high-intensity interval training."

But there's something else bothering me: I don't get the post-workout "buzz" that is often discussed around exercise. As well as differences in physical adaptations are there mental differences, too?

"It seems there are. Some show a robust improvement in mental health and some don't. The reason that message has got out there is partly because many of the trials use a self-selecting sample: in other words, the people who make themselves available for research into the effects of exercise are often people who enjoy exercising."

The key, he says, to all this, is not only to discover your genetic capacity and tailor your workout as best you can but, crucially, to follow the simplest and perhaps the most effective exercise advice of all: do something you enjoy.


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Wednesday 25 September 2013

How To Baby Proof Your Garden


Toddlers and children love to play outdoors in the garden, but just how safe is your outside space?




For those families that have a yard or garden an outside space offers the chance for your children to have fun in a safe and controlled environment as well as giving you the opportunity to relax and enjoy the weather.   
For those moving into a home with a garden or for the ones that are thinking about baby proofing a garden then you might not know where to start and want things might be considered as dangerous. As a parent you can never be expected to protect your child from every danger, but when it comes to your child’s safety outdoors then there a few things you can do to create a safe and fun environment;
Loose or falling objects
The first thing to identify when you begin your quest is to ensure your garden is risk free, is to look for any objects that could fall from height when moved. Gomes, plant pots and garden ornaments can be easily nudged and knocked over by any member of the family. Moving these objects will ensure your child doesn’t get hit by a falling object should it be knocked over and safeguard them against any debris should the objects fall and break.
Pet doors, toys & mess
If you have a family pet then the chances are that they will have probably used your yard as their toilet. If you plan on spending quality time outside with your family then it’s important that you clean up any visible mess and dispose of it appropriately. It is always advisable to wash the ground your dog or cat has used as the toilet, and this can be done by using hot soapy water – please refrain from using chemical based cleaning products as they could damage your surfaces and kill your grass.
If you have a pet door/flap then it is almost inevitable that it will attract attention from your children. When you’re out in your space it’s sensible to lock the pet doors in a bid to remove the temptation of your children playing with it or even worse trying to crawl thought them.   
If your pet has his or her favourite toys in the yard then it is recommended that these are either cleaned or moved out of reach – pet toys can carry a wide range of harmful germs and bacteria that your little ones don’t want to come in contact with. Remove the temptation by placing your beloved pet’s treats and toys into a basket and store them in the shed or under the stairs.
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Taking a break is hard to do




Trial separations are all the rage among celebrity couples. But do they give relationships helpful breathing space – or just delay the inevitable? Genevieve Roberts reports.
Penny Mansfield, director of relationship charity One Plus One, suggests the rich and the famous "have to account for themselves if they are going through a rough patch", which may lead to more trial separations.
She says: "Many couples go through a lower profile version – spending less time together, sleeping in separate bedrooms – which may be an equivalent way of finding space and working out what to do."
Relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam, author of The New Joy of Sex, suggests all separations are, by definition, trial separations, whatever name the couple chooses. "People contacting me who have already split up wouldn't be getting in touch unless they hoped to get back together. Couples who immediately file for divorce are not having a trial separation – everything else is, by nature, a trial. In most couples, at least one will be hoping they get back together. However, sometimes the other is sure it is over, but isn't yet saying."
The outlook for relationships after a trial separation is variable: 10 per cent of couples in ongoing marriages have split up and got back together, according to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, which also suggests that a third of reconciliations are successful, with couples remaining together a year after they split up. Couples are only half as likely to seek counselling if they are no longer living together.
Just as all relationships have their share of eccentricities, there is no one-size-fits-all trial separation. As Andrew Balfour, director of clinical services at the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships, explains: "For some, a trial may be a developmental move: they can't see the wood from the trees, or this helps break out of repeating patterns. It's an attempt to get emotional space and perspective because when they're together they're swept along by intense feelings. Others may be trying to wean themselves off the relationship. One partner may want it more than the other."
So, if your relationship's on the rocks, is it a good idea to take a break? A trial time apart provides space to give perspective. "It can give a chance to think without the daily stress of interacting with someone you're fighting with," Quilliam says. Her advice varies from couple to couple. "I warn that living separately won't help on its own. With professional help, there's no guarantee of staying together, but I guarantee it will help make a better decision." She says even if one half of a couple goes to counselling, "it can make a difference".
There are other advantages to a trial separation. Mansfield says: "It may be helpful for those wary of a Big Exit, particularly if children are involved." Northam adds that if there is emotional abuse, addiction problems or mental-health problems then a trial separation could be wise.
On the downside, she says it's easier to create time if partners are living together. And you're sending a message to the world that you are considering separating. "You are telling everyone your marriage is in trouble and people can't really ignore that." Mansfield agrees: "Public knowledge can add to problems if people start to take sides."
If you do choose a trial separation, Quilliam says you should make sure to be very clear about what it means, asking yourselves: "Is there a chance we'll get back together? Are we dating other people? What if we end up back in bed after seeing each other, does that mean we're back together?".
Mansfield recommends people take extra care when explaining the situation to children. "The worst thing to say is that you don't know what is going on," she says. "Children like security. Give them confidence that someone is taking charge, reassure them you are sorting it out. Acknowledge there is something wrong. Parents should keep children informed only up to a level they can cope with."
While there are no guarantees of reconciliation, time is of the essence: "The longer you are apart, the less likely you are to get back together," Quilliam says. "Though I've known couples separate for a couple of years and get back together, and other couples who after six weeks, one half has decided they want a divorce."

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How to deal with a defiant child



Great. Your child has just pulled a tantrum and the family reunion starts in 20 minutes. Or it’s time to leave for dance class and she’s in jeans, reading a book in her room.
Children from ages five to 10 will sometimes dig in their heels and refuse to attend their after-school activities or family commitments. So what’s with the attitude?



Find The Reason

“It’s not just about the child being defiant for the sake of being defiant,” says Sara Dimerman, a Toronto-based child and family therapist and the author of Am I a Normal Parent? “usually for children of this age, there’s something going on.”

It could be that she’s worried about being bored at Aunt Mabel’s house. Or perhaps she has an illogical fear — that she’ll have to swim in the deep end after just a few swim classes, for example. The problem could also be something more serious — such as a cousin who bullies her when the grown-ups’ backs are turned.
Ask your child what’s up. After discussing his concerns, you may decide together that he’ll drop out of basketball at the end of the season. Or maybe he simply needs to hear that while Grandma’s nursing home may be smelly and dull, visiting her is important. It might not be the answer he wanted, but at least he’ll feel listened to.
Make a plan
Sometimes, all children really need is a heads-up from you to psych themselves up for an outing. “Children are aware of their rights,” says Dimerman. Your daughter may object to attending your workplace fundraiser, but mentioning it to her a day or two in advance gives her time to anticipate and talk through any concerns she may have. Wouldn’t you rather figure out some coping strategies — such as bringing along a friend — before the car’s already running in the driveway?
Getting Through It
So you forgot to write down that dinner party at the neighbours’ house on the family calendar and, suddenly, it’s time to go — only your child is saying no (and looks on the verge of kicking and screaming).
Your best bet here is to be firm but sympathetic. Tell him you’re all going together and you’re sorry you didn’t realize the party was at the same time as the big hockey game on TV. Promise that you will talk about it later, and then follow through with a chat before bed that night, or the following day.
As you corral him out the door, you may feel deeply annoyed. But take comfort that a little defiance is a good thing. “It’s healthy and natural for a child to assert himself,” says Dimerman. “It’s better that than someone who’s blindly obedient."

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A new digital guide is launched to help would-be adopters





First4Adoption has launched a ground-breaking new digital guide to who can apply to adopt a child in England. For the first time ever, this unique interactive Q&A will help would-be adopters to find out for themselves if they meet the criteria to apply to adopt a child, and to bust some of the myths about who can adopt. It will enable prospective adopters to start the first stage of the new two-stage adoption process, which was launched by the government via First4Adoption earlier this month.
The interactive Q&A is one of a series being developed by First4Adoption, which will be published on its website over the coming months to support would-be adopters through stage one of the new two-stage adoption process. It covers: marital status; ethnicity; home ownership; UK residency; criminal convictions; disabilities; health and wellbeing; fertility treatment; existing children in the family; smoking; mental health issues; income; and pets. As well as helping prospective adopters find out whether they are suitable to apply to adopt, the interactive guide raises some of the issues that adoption agencies may want to discuss later in the process.  
Further interactive Q&As are expected to cover: understanding the joys and challenges of adoption; and the types of children that are available for adoption.
The interactive Q&As could provide a record for prospective adopters to show their adoption agencies that they have completed the first stage of the two-part adoption process.
Gemma Gordon-Johnson, Head of Service at First4Adoption, said: “We are delighted to be launching our new digital guide to help would-be adopters on their journey to discovering if adoption is right for them. We hope that this encourages more people to come forward to offer a loving home to one of the 4,600 children currently waiting to be adopted in England.”
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Tuesday 24 September 2013

Teenagers tell Family Lives the best and worst things about being a teenager



Family Lives survey also reveals teenagers’ greatest fears and their advice for parents


At Family Lives we wanted to find out what teens really think about life, school and everything else in between, so we ran a survey to find out. The results are fascinating and really show us what teens care and worry about the most.





Family is the most important thing for teenagers

Despite the strains of being a teenager, family is by far the most important thing in a teen’s life. Out of 235 teens (aged 13-19) surveyed, 141 chose familyamong the three most important things in their lives. This was closely followed by friends (126) and school(41). Some teens, however, had different things on their minds when they answered the survey, with phones, food, and pets also featuring in the top ten answers.
The importance of family also played into teens’ greatest fears, with the most common fears being around the idea of losing loved ones. Many also had concerns about being abandoned or left alone, highlighting again the importance of friends and family. Other common answers showed that lots of teens felt anxiety about the reality of their eventual death, or that failure and an unsuccessful future were a real cause for concern.
We also asked teens what they felt were the best and worst things about being a teenager in today’s world. The most popular answers for the best thing about being a teenager were around the idea of enjoying the freedom of youth and the lack of responsibility it carries. Teens seemed to be very aware that this period of their lives won’t last forever and they are enjoying this golden period between childhood and adulthood, where they can have lots of fun with their friends without yet having to worry about financial pressures. 
When asked the worst thing about being a teenager, 43 teens told us they felt judged and pressurised by society. Many teens talked about the difficulties of being stereotyped and undervalued. When asked what they thought was the worst thing about being a teenager, one 15-year-old girl said:
“That I sometimes don't get taken seriously and get treated like a child. However, I think I have an understanding that is similar to most adults. I also think that I shouldn’t have to be an adult to make a change.”
Interestingly, where so many had told us they enjoyed the lack of responsibility of being a teenager, another 36 teens found that the worst aspect of being a teenager was the lack of freedom to make their own choices. Only 20 picked school and exams as the worst thing about being a teenager, with stress, hormones and puberty all falling even lower down the list. The things we might think of as the ‘traditional’ troubles of the teenage years might seem to have been superseded by a more existential angst, as teens strive to forge an identity that goes against the stereotype. 

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How To Spot Common Childhood Diseases



Read journalist James Armstrong’s article on spotting the signs and actions to take when dealing with common childhood diseases.

Children are vulnerable to some specific diseases which parents need to be aware of. This article describes a few of the conditions that children are susceptible to, the symptoms to look out for and the action to take if you notice them.




Chickenpox

This extremely common and very well-known disease is caused by a viral infection. Chickenpox is not usually a dangerous illness, although it is highly contagious. 

Many people view the disease as a nuisance than a real threat to their child’s health. This is generally true, although in some cases complications or secondary infections need medical attention. A rough rule of thumb is that the earlier a child is infected with the virus, the milder the disease will be. 

In the rare cases where adults who were never exposed as children have been infected, chickenpox has proven to be a painful and distressing illness, whereas most children will shrug off the condition with comparative ease.

Symptoms

The classic symptom of chickenpox is a red rash of blisters covering the entire body. Before this rash appears your child may display mild flu-like symptoms or a slight fever.

It is possible for children to have very few spots, or not to develop a rash at all after exhibiting earlier symptoms. But most children will develop hundreds of spots, usually starting on the scalp or abdomen before spreading rapidly.

The rash will be itchy, but otherwise most children will not feel ill.



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Monday 23 September 2013

My Child's Development - The First Three Months


My Child's Development - The First Three Months




Not much time for playing??
While it is fair to say that baby is unlikely to learn the rules of rugby at this stage, there is loads of play to be done...as much for your good as baby’s sometimes.
You will bond with baby if you feel you have a role in his/her life and especially if Mum is breastfeeding or if you do not live with Mum and baby, you may feel quite pushed out. Sometimes helpful relatives and friendly neighbours get to hold your baby more than you do, Dad, so you may need to reclaim your place to teach your baby to play. Tired Mummies can be transformed into real people again by seeing that Dad knows what to do with baby and has important things to do with baby which she can trust to him whilst she takes a nap!!!

Babies work from instinct at this stage. In other words, they are driven by urges that revolve around survival. Most of their behaviour is centred around ensuring that they are fed, fed enough, kept clean and get the chance to sleep...oh yes and feed some more.
It is your job to undertake these tasks whilst adding something else to baby....an appreciation of things which do not purely cause survival...touch and voice and movement, nurture which is not functional. In other words early play.
Babies at this age are ready to be sociable. They are trying to tell us adults that they want to play. How? To start with, they are more interested in voice with tones than monotone and they are keen to track objects visually even while their eye sight is still developing.
Some ideas for games
  • Copy time: Give your baby things s/he can copy you doing (e.g. Stick out your tongue). Give him/her at least 30 seconds to copy as they will process things slowly at this stage.
  • Mirroring: copy your baby’s facial expressions but exaggerate them for his/her benefit.
  • Touching: make sure your baby regularly knows your touch on his hands, face and whole self as it communicates love and value to her/him and that is the starting place for feeling able to play. Rubbing feet and hands or massaging baby can relax or stimulate him/her.
  • Voice: Singing and talking in a sing-song voice to babies is not just instinctive to parents...it is fabulous for your baby’s development. Your baby will know your voice within a week if your contact with her/him is daily for a few hours, but it will take longer if it less consistent.
  • Light Seeking: baby can tell the difference between light and dark from birth and are often attracted to light. Walking in and out of different shades or colours of light will be interesting to baby.
Always limit interaction to a few minutes at most as baby tires easily at this age, little and often are best. Remember that his/her line of vision is very limited at birth and increases gradually. In the first twelve weeks you will need to be within 30cm of baby’s eyes to be full in focus.

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Young fathers worst hit by changes in family law




Thursday September 19, 2013 at 9:00am




The impact of the removal of Legal Aid in most family law cases – notably divorce – is having far-reaching consequences, as we have regularly discussed in this blog. However, what is emerging is just how much it is affecting young parents and, particularly, young dads struggling to get the right advice to steer them towards a workable, long term solution to their relationship troubles, and most importantly their relationship with their children.

Unless young parents have good family and friend support networks it can be difficult to obtain objective advice about relationship breakdown without easy access to free or affordable legal services. Separating parenting from a relationship is very difficult and the result is young people often ‘boomerang’ in and out of relationships that are destructive as they attempt to maintain contact with children. No relationship can often equate to no contact and the claim from a partner: “If you don’t love me, you don’t love our baby.” In some ways, this is understandable from a vulnerable mum who may want to cling on to the relationship or protect herself from emotional hurt by stopping contact yet all it achieves is a destructive “on-off” arrangement for everyone, especially the children.

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Participants required for Bereavement Counselling Research







Fathers Who Have Lost A Baby

Research Participants Wanted

The University of Roehampton is researching the experience of grief and counselling for fathers who have lost a baby due to late miscarriage, stillbirth or early neonatal loss and who sought support for their bereavement in the form of group, individual or couples counselling (even if they didn't continue with it).  You would be contributing to very important research to improve understanding of how fathers can best be supported in such profound loss.

It is anticipated that 6-8 dads will be interviewed.  The researcher, Hannah Humphry-Baker, is happy to travel to meet each father at a time and place that works well for him.  A private one-on-one conversation lasting between one and two hours will follow.   All information will be kept anonymous and confidential in the write-up of this study under the procedures of the University of Roehampton's Ethics Committee.

If you are willing to contribute to this study or would like to know more about the research please contact Hannah in confidence.

Hannah Humphry-Baker
Department of Psychology
University of Roehampton
Email: humphryh@roehampton.ac.uk
Telephone: 07968287893
 
The Fatherhood Institute, Unit 1 Warren Courtyard, Savernake, Marlborough, Wiltshire SN8 3UU

Phone 0845 6341328   

Registered charity number 1075104  Company number 3709549


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